Updated: Mar 19, 2018
The moment I became a Mother I made a commitment. I vowed to do everything I could to protect and care for my child(ren). Their needs would always come first. Caught up in their adorable little selves and this incredible love I embraced Motherhood to its fullest.
However, between the cuddles and intoxicating baby smells I felt a nagging. While I loved being a Mom I needed to keep my other self present. I missed her.
We wear countless hats in this life and play different roles for many. And I truly believe in order for me to play my Mom role the best I can I need to connect with my other.
So what does that look like? How do I find time to be in that self?
The quest for balance is not easy. But neither is being a Mom, a Wife, or a Full-Time employee. But each of those roles is important and I put my whole self into them. My other self demands the same respect.
I have learned what my personal needs are, what my self-care routine consists of, and how to MAKE time for me. There will always be dishes and laundry to do, and my kids will always want me to focus 100% on them (at least in these younger years) but I need time for myself so I can refuel and come back into my Mom role swinging.
I try and teach my kids the importance of caring for your whole self. I go to Bootcamp weekly and while my kids feel their world is crashing down (for a few brief moments before I go) I am teaching them that their Mom values her health (mental + physical).
And I sure as hek MOM-better when I come back after a solid workout. #nowinerequired
I make sure I have positive outlets and creative projects that bring me joy. I take nights away with friends and sometimes alone to just be. I reconnect with myself. Keeping open communication with my husband is key as he is also needing to balance his world.
Take a moment and look at your life. Do you feel balance? What areas do you wish you could spend more time in? Be fair. Life sometimes demands more of us and our balance shifts. But making time (however small- I have a nightly bath no matter how late and this is my time) is important and meaningful for helping you connect with and care for all of you.
You navigate Motherhood as best you can. The game is always changing. But your self-care should always be a priority.